Dad: I’m Going To Keep Calling My Daughter Bossy

Knowing the difference between being a leader and being a bully.

Dave Lesser is not about to stop calling his little girl "bossy." While #BanBossy "is catchy and makes a great hashtag," he describes the call to arms to ban the word as "arbitrary."

[I]is “bossy” used that often to criticize girls and women? Is the word ever used to describe anyone over the age of 11? It’s just so G-Rated! If an adult is bossy, there are much better words to call them. (I don’t think they should be banned, either.) If a girl can’t be called bossy, should she be called pushy instead? Of course not, because the message is the same. So how many words are we going to need to ban before this campaign comes to an end?

As I noted in my previous post, I agree that at times this entire campaign seems arbitrary and that it really isn't the word itself that is the problem, but the sentiment and emotion behind it. Lesser is doing exactly what I think all parents should be doing and that is teaching his son and daughter that harmful behavior (whether it can be called "bossy" or not) is unacceptable. 

Being a leader means caring for and empathizing with those you are leading. Being bossy, being a bully, is easier because you only have yourself to think about. In fact, you don’t really have to think at all. You just act for your own immediate self-gratification. As a child, this behavior is understandable, but it is not something that deserves encouragement.

Even if the "Ban Bossy" campaign is somewhat arbitrary, it is still starting a national conversation about words and the hidden meanings behind them, and that is always a good thing.