This article does an even better job of articulating my thoughts on Sheryl Sandberg's new "Ban Bossy" campaign. The author points out:
The problem here isn't the word bossy, it's the way the word is applied in a gendered context...the solution isn't to stop calling people bossy. The solution is to work towards removing that negative and gendered connotation from the word.
My thoughts exactly. If we don't change the fact that the same behavior, praised in little boys, is criticized in little girls, a new word will just replace "bossy" and we will still be in the same boat.